| I have seen lot of friction between | | | | What should be done? Llisten to what the |
| intelligent people in my life. How to avoid | | | | other person says. Think about it and before |
| that friction so that one need not regret | | | | answering count up to 100. I am not |
| afterwards? | | | | saying-10, but 100. After that instead of |
| | | | giving opinion or reacting, ask. Ask what the |
| First - look at the personality of the other | | | | other person means by what he/she says. that |
| person. Is it verbal, emotional or pictorial? | | | | is very important. By asking you make other |
| A verbal personality loves to talk. You will | | | | person feel that he/she is being heard. After |
| hear a word such as it sounds well etc from | | | | you are satisfied that you have asked all- |
| such person. The word sound tells us about | | | | begin your suggestions. No answers. Only |
| that personality. The emotional personality | | | | suggestions. Begin with words such as- |
| feels. If she/he buys a car, they will try to | | | | suppose dear we do like this? Or suppose |
| feel the car with touch and decide. A | | | | dear, you leave this job and do not get other |
| pictorial personality thinks in pictures. | | | | |
| They go into vivid imagination. Once you know | | | | Acting in a mature and intelligent way, one |
| the personality of the other person, you have | | | | can avoid lot of friction. If you find |
| gone one step ahead. | | | | impossible to deal with a person, get away. |
| | | | Verbal duals give nothing but pain. Life is |
| The second step is reacting. Are you acting | | | | too short to be spent in unnecessary |
| or reacting? Many of us react. We get easily | | | | arguments. Try and analyze your |
| provoked without any reason and react and | | | | relationships. Do not waste precious moments |
| lash out. That kills thinking because anger | | | | of your life in arguments and fights. If you |
| takes over. | | | | do so, you will realize your folly in future. |
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