| I have seen lot of friction between | | | | other person says. Think about it and |
| intelligent people in my life. How to | | | | before answering count up to 100. I am |
| avoid that friction so that one need not | | | | not saying-10, but 100. After that |
| regret afterwards? | | | | instead of giving opinion or reacting, |
| First - look at the personality of the | | | | ask. Ask what the other person means by |
| other person. Is it verbal, emotional or | | | | what he/she says. that is very |
| pictorial? A verbal personality loves to | | | | important. By asking you make other |
| talk. You will hear a word such as it | | | | person feel that he/she is being heard. |
| sounds well etc from such person. The | | | | After you are satisfied that you have |
| word sound tells us about that | | | | asked all- begin your suggestions. No |
| personality. The emotional personality | | | | answers. Only suggestions. Begin with |
| feels. If she/he buys a car, they will | | | | words such as- suppose dear we do like |
| try to feel the car with touch and | | | | this? Or suppose dear, you leave this |
| decide. A pictorial personality thinks | | | | job and do not get other |
| in pictures. They go into vivid | | | | Acting in a mature and intelligent way, |
| imagination. Once you know the | | | | one can avoid lot of friction. If you |
| personality of the other person, you | | | | find impossible to deal with a person, |
| have gone one step ahead. | | | | get away. Verbal duals give nothing but |
| The second step is reacting. Are you | | | | pain. Life is too short to be spent in |
| acting or reacting? Many of us react. We | | | | unnecessary arguments. Try and analyze |
| get easily provoked without any reason | | | | your relationships. Do not waste |
| and react and lash out. That kills | | | | precious moments of your life in |
| thinking because anger takes over. | | | | arguments and fights. If you do so, you |
| What should be done? Llisten to what the | | | | will realize your folly in future. |